Welcome to a new series of blog posts: The Blondes with Blogs. Maddison and Lauren are going to be joining me for these blogs, and Ashlynn may join a couple of them as well. So when you see a Blondes with Blogs post out, head over to their blogs to check them out. We pick a topic, and each write our opinions on it. If any of you have any ideas on what we should write about, feel free to share in the comments!
Some of you may have seen this blog, and thought, “Why has Sarah gotten into this topic?” I’m kinda questioning that myself. Over the past couple of years, Feminism has become a big thing. You see it and read about it everywhere. While looking for a topic to talk about in our Blondes with Blogs posts, Maddi mentioned this one, and I thought, “Why not? Everyone on the internet gives their opinion, so why can’t I?”
Some of you have probably seen some quotes like these:
There many others, but they have bad language in them, which I have no desire to see.
I guess I should start off with the definition of feminism…what is it?
- the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
Feminism seems to support gender equality. A woman can do anything a man can do, and should be treated like a man. Feminists fight to change things that seem to be limited only to men.
I never want to be someone who follows what seems to be right at the first glance, but I’d rather dig deeper and find out what it’s all about. When I started studying for this blog post, out of curiosity I looked up feminism quotes on Pinterest. I was shocked to see the bad words and spirit behind them! Basically, they promote making women the leaders in our world, and many state that guys are good for nothing.
Lots of ladies state that they want to work, while their husband stays at home watching kids. While for some people that would be the best option, I wouldn’t want to do that. I’m looking forward to the days when I watch my kids and be a stay-at-home mom while my hubby is off working. I realize that there are other homes where the mom works, and the dad stays at home…whatever floats your boat, I guess. 😀 😉
I live in a country where probably 7 out of 10 girls are abused. It can be by their dad, stepdad, brother, boyfriend…you name it. Once girls have been through that, they react with one of two extremes: either they never want to get married, or they feel no worth. Those who never want to get married normally do everything they can to destroy the life of every guy they are ever with. Those who feel no worth tend to throw themselves at every guy who looks their way.
In our children’s church classes, we’ve had girls from both categories, and we’ve even had them in our church. More than once, I’ve had conversations with these girls, reminding them of their worth. Another thing that is very common here is that many girls don’t know their dad, because he walked out when they were young, or when their mom was pregnant. This also causes them not to want to get married, and to look down on guys. Some say that they want to adopt children, but not get married. I once asked a girl, “Would you make a child grow up without a dad? How did that affect you? Would you wish that on any kid if you could prevent it?” Then a thought hit me: How are we going to make a difference in the world if we don’t raise the difference? Unless we raise gentlemen and ladies, the world’s going to run out of them! We can raise these world changers by raising our children in God’s will. My future husband and I can give our kids back to God, and raise them in a way that’s pleasing to Him.
My two main goals are 1) to be a follower of Jesus, and 2) to be a wife and mother. So, looking ahead to the day when I have children to love and protect, it scares me to think about how our world could be so mixed up. I know that the Lord will give me the grace to raise them in a way that’s pleasing to Him.
Imagine though…we’re getting to a point where a girl can make up any story about a boy that can neither be proved or disproved, and completely ruin a boy’s life. I am not a feminist, I don’t support the spirit behind it. While claiming to support gender equality, they put men down to a lower level than themselves.
I know that there are some women who support feminism because of good motives…there are always a few. The movement of feminism seems to be like every other movement: it always starts out innocent, but then it starts turning violent or angry. It is this aspect of Feminism that I cannot support.
One big controversial subject in feminism is jobs. Many feminists state that men are paid more than women, which results in more men at work sites than women. I was looking at some statistics the other day that said that there about 9:1 men to women at a work site. While some people complain about how unjust that is, that also means that if something dangerous were to happen at a work site, mostly men would be affected by it.
“Men have sacrificed and crippled themselves physically and emotionally to feed, house, and protect women and children. None of their pain or achievement is registered in feminist rhetoric, which portrays men as oppressive and callous exploiters.” -Camille Paglia
As a woman, I want to feel valued and protected by my dad, brothers, and (one day) my husband. God created men to be stronger (in essence) than women. Now we have the super strong body builder women who work out every day and have massive muscles, but that honestly doesn’t look natural on a woman.
The Bible says that the glory of men is their strength, and that the glory of women is their hair. There are also many feminists that chop their hair off…I’m not sure why, but I’ve seen it happen many a time.
Proverbs 20:29 King James Version (KJV)
29 The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the grey head.
1 Corinthians 11:15 King James Version (KJV)
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
God created men with strength for a reason…as men, they were created to love and care for women as Christ does for his church. As women, we were made to respect and submit ourselves to our husbands. There are many women in the world we live in who do not like to submit to anyone. I don’t want to be someone who can’t submit.
Ephesians 5:22-25, 28-33 King James Version (KJV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.